The Limitless Love You Forget When You’re Stressed
The Limitless Love You Forget When You’re Stressed
Feeling stuck in self-blame, shutdown, or the urge to fix everything? April Hankins breaks down the “triangle of drama” and shows how moms, therapists, and overwhelmed women can step out of persecutor, victim, and rescuer mode and return to a more grounded, securely attached way of being.April draws on the drama triangle from psychiatrist Dr. Stephen Karpman, then reframes it through a deeply personal lens: how we relate to ourselves when stress narrows our perspective and makes every choice feel loaded. She connects the dots between family systems, attachment, nervous system regulation, and the boxes so many women feel pressure to fit—from “good mom” expectations to the “therapist voice” that can crowd out authenticity.You’ll hear April unpack:
why the roles of persecutor, victim, and rescuer show up so quickly in everyday life
how stress and nervous system activation can push you into mental loops and urgency
the “double bind” experience of feeling like every option is a bad option
practical ways to work with conflicting parts using the IFS conference room, EMDR-inspired two-handed interweave, and the idea of a “sacred third”
a powerful reframe from Megan Watterson’s reflection on the vineyard workers parable and the unreasonable abundance of love
This episode is especially for moms, therapists, and anyone who feels trapped between self-criticism and over-functioning. April invites you to stop trying to rescue yourself through one more course, one more expert, or one more round of perfectionism—and instead remember what has been there all along: unlimited love, internal wisdom, and a way forward that is not either-or.If you need a compassionate reset, a new lens for your inner world, or a reminder that you are not broken, this conversation offers both language and relief. Perfect for the woman who is tired of carrying everything and ready to claim a more spacious, integrated way to live.